My heart dating
As a Canadian dating in Scotland, I initially found it quite difficult as there isn't the same culture/ tradition of dating as there is in North America.Back in Toronto, it wasn't considered strange/ too forward for a guy to approach you and either: (a) just start talking to you SOBER and/or (b) offer to buy you a drink.Look, we'll probably never even come close to what our Scottish cousins can partake in, booze wise, but you might as well start trying: if you can't beat 'em, join 'em, right? In Canada, we usually go to other people's houses to get shit-faced but over here, people go to a pub in order to pay twice as much to shout over loud music.The one thing, however, that you won't get at a lot of Canadian house parties is one thing that the Brits/ Scots excel at: playful banter.If they’re the CHOSEN people, they’re likely to look upon others as NOT chosen people. Maybe he’s got a tattoo of a skull over his left eye.
Clearly I don't approve of such encouragement because I think it's important to remember that men are a lot more complicated and dare I say it, delicate than we let them be. What do you do when your parents don’t approve or feel that the person you love/dating is the right person for you? And while I like to maintain a separation between church and date, I don’t think your culture can be entirely ignored here. So if your parents are super-caring and attentive, they’re likely to be overprotective.Do you respect their wishes and find someone who is welcome at home and around your family, or do you follow your heart and stay with the person you love even if your parents may not attend the wedding? I’ve explored this concept before, in relation to successful women, but I think it applies to Judaism as well. If they’re intelligent, they’re likely to be opinionated.The same cannot be said about Scottish men, I'm afraid.
Which brings me to my first point: This takes some getting used to.
You will need to carry out a careful conversation and only when it is hinted at, may you ask someone what they do or openly try to guess.